When describing their communities, BDSM’ers will talk about how theirs is a “safe, sane” space, “based on consent and respect and sex-positivity” as if reciting some invisible script. But there are many communities whose rhetoric or practice (or both) are based on these ideas, so it seems incomplete at best or a deliberate misdirection at […]
This is what distinguishes rolequeer sex from many other approaches to erotic intimacy
14 Oct 2014 at 14:54
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Rolequeerness is not about sex. It’s about power. But insofar as sex is about power, then rolequeerness is simply a neologism pointing out the reality of sex as infused with inegalitarian power relations and describes one’s desire to undermine that inequity. The idea that human relationships are infused with power imbalances is not some new […]
“The kink/BDSM community isn’t trying to end rape culture. They’re trying to eroticize it.”
27 Jun 2014 at 14:08
maymay
BDSM psychology, Community, D/s dynamics, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex
The kink/BDSM community isn’t trying to end rape culture. They’re trying to eroticize it. We already have a society in which relationship role models are so thoroughly intoxicated with abuser dynamics that most people don’t even know what consenting feels like. By celebrating this state of affairs and attempting to normalize the explicit eroticization of […]
Predator Alert Tool for Twitter is now available as a WordPress plugin
29 May 2014 at 15:23
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Predator Alert Tool for Twitter is now available as a WordPress plugin: Predator Alert Tool for Twitter empowers you to document harassment on Twitter and alert others about predatory users. What constitutes “predatory” is entirely up to you; the software makes no claim as to what behavior hurts you. Predator Alert Tool for Twitter can […]
